Posts Tagged ‘The Human Connection’

Words are the voice of the heart.

—Confucius (Public Domain)

We generally don’t realize it, but our words form a clear pattern for others to see. We have all been around individuals who believe they are good, warm-hearted, sympathetic people, yet the pattern of words they utter belie that self-image. It is easy to fall into this trap, especially if we are constantly exposed to negative, hate-filled, smarmy language via the television, radio, and print. As these individuals pat themselves on the back for their cleverness, the clear-minded person sees them for the small, lost souls they have become.

So take stock of what you say—your words reflect to others who you really are.

—Mike Hazell

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Consider in silence whatever one says: speech both conceals and reveals the inner soul of the speaker.

—Cato the Younger (photo by Prioryman; Public Domain)

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We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

—Robert Louis Stevenson (by Henry Walter Barnett; Public Domain)

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It will generally be found that those who sneer habitually at human nature, and affect to despise it, are among its worst and least pleasant samples.

—Charles Dickens (by Jeremiah Gurney; Public Domain)

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A man is never astonished that he doesn’t know what another does, but he is surprised at the gross ignorance of the other in not knowing what he does.

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—Richard Halliburton (Public Domain)

…The importance of the human connection—our personal interaction with others—cannot be overstated, especially if we run a small business or are in any kind of sales positions (which most of us are, whether we realize it or not). And for those of us who struggle with creating that human bond with others, the divide between how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us, via our actions or our tone, is often enormous.

When we deal with someone who seems aloof or standoffish, we typically react in kind. Yet, in the other person’s mind, they saw their perfectly friendly approach met with coldness; perhaps even disdain. Even benign emails can be misconstrued in the mind of the reader. “What did they mean by that?”

If you struggle with the human connection, don’t worry—you are far from alone. The first step (after admitting that you truly do want to improve your life in this area) is to become outer-directed every time you deal with others, whether one-on-one or in a group setting. Turn your focus 180 degrees, from you to them. Truly be interested in what they might be going through. More often than not, a perceived slight is, in reality, simply the result of the other person thinking about something going on in their own life. In other words, it has nothing to do with you.

Make a habit out of focusing on others. Make if fun, like a game. If you don’t know what they do, ask them. Try to put yourselves in their shoes and consider what a typical day might be like for them. Even if you were right, and they do have a problem with you, who cares?! The best revenge would be your own personal success, undaunted by the opinions of others. The less baggage we carry through life, the happier our life will be.

—MSH, Penn Wealth

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They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.

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— Carl Buechner

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